Thanks for all your comments concerning the little babe in yesterdays post.
Grandma told me very late yesterday she'd certainly didn't do what was suggested and gave the baby lots of cuddles and tickles and sang songs and did all the sorts of things you do when there is a babe in your arms - was rewarded with lots of smiles and that funny coo tiny babies make
The grandma then mentioned she'd spoken (nicely) to the dil on a different day about her concerns and it seems she has a thing in her head about controlled crying. The little one cries a lot during the day and the night ( not what Grandma observed the day she looked after her) and she, the mother was really tired and had heard that if you leave them be they will go to sleep, She thought it would work during the day as well
Yes, said Grandma sometimes it works with older babes and children but yours is still really little and needs to be held. Thankfully when she saw the 'nurse' a day later 'she' said similar things to her and as well as the baby has taken her (the mother)under her wing.
Her son now says they have had some really nasty fights over leaving the baby to cry and didn't know where to get help for the mother. Lets hope mum gets lots of help and it doesn't lead to a case of PND unless the seed has already been sown